Did Things Go Wrong?

Some strategies and techniques in psychotherapy, which began with good intentions, probably became degraded, misunderstood or mis-applied.  I wrote an essay about these ideas, which did not go down well with the class tutor, but it makes sense to me still with hindsight. It's largely a matter of viewpoint and circumstance. Some people did not realise there could be possible unintended consequences of using some frameworks or methods. Did other people foresee, or even engineer things, either for control or chaos. Or would that be paranoid thinking? All I seemed to hear from people seeking help were off-the-cuff comments that made me wonder about the ethics or wisdom of certain routes to development.

To some extent many of us change over the years, or quickly depending on people and events that affect us. Emotional contagion can happen, even if we don't know quite how it works. Sometimes it's as though the scales drop from our eyes (if we get enough breathing space), about someone we trusted. Not all 'contagion' has a contaminating effect, but rather is a beneficial influence.

Advertising works, otherwise why are big bucks spent on it? Why is there so much data-mining particularly of our spending habits and contacts? If you've spent time on social media, you've seen stuff about hacking, scams involving large amounts of money, perpetrated on people who normally are nobody's fool, and questions about what Facebook in particular has been up to. We carry around a gadget capable of far more than the early computers, and all this is pushed at us. Big data, fast data, more 'I can do this', until something goes wrong.

I have known people who don't seem to remember some things in their life, if they are simply not in the right frame of mind. Others switch from one complex task to another, as easily as dropping a hat. Me, not so much! I get tuned in to what I am doing, and stuff falls off the shelves that I can fit into things somewhere. So we are all different, some days more so than others.


What if someone can manipulate our parts, 'hack' us, or use us to fulfil some idea of their own?

Hand-in-hand with dissociation or personality parts was an inference that there must be underlying or unacknowledged abuse or trauma. All hell was being let loose, with a consequent backlash and denial that such things could have happened. Some people try to convince others that, if one case has doubt thrown at it, it means all similar allegations have no basis. Where is the logic? - It only needs one black swan to prove they are not always white.

Memories can become distorted in the normal way of things. If people are pressured to keep searching in a negative way, particularly in a regressed state of mind, the outcome is less likely to be a true record. People can genuinely benefit, but for others it could act as a placebo, believing that they now have an explanation. With encouragement from a friend who was a good hypnotherapist, I underwent a training course that seemed ethical till I knew more of how it could be used to keep making money or to prove a point. What point exactly? At least I learned something from the experience.

It does not have to be full-on hypnosis or planned scam to affect people. A persuasive person sticking to dogma can cause problems for those who are searching. We are more likely to be conned or drawn into a cult, when vulnerable or upset. This is not a manual on how to have an effect on people, but it can help to understand how maybe you got duped by someone getting under your natural protective system. Even if you know and trust someone, people change and one needs a rethink. People can inadvertently push each others' buttons, rekindling something upsetting.

At times during my involvement in some of the areas touched on here, I found myself wondering about people's schooldays, how they might have behaved in the playground: Because the dynamics seemed along the lines of friendship groups, how loyalties change, the difference between having a close friend on standby, or being able to muster support, and a stand-alone who can be scapegoated or whispered about. Let's just say, it made more sense than some of the ideology people claimed. You might think of examples from your observations or experience. Through my eyes, I can only say 'Be careful in whom you place your trust. You are not necessarily being paranoid if you sense more than one agenda present in some people.'

Note inserted June 2021

We've mentioned elsewhere in Blogs & on Twitter about motivation and therapists, and to be free to walk away from something that honestly does not feel in one's best interests. Therapy is naturally painful: It should not be harmful, or take people apart for the sake of it.

Elsewhere we've mentioned author Leo Lyon Zagami, and recently came across Vol. IV of Confessions of an Illuminati, American Renaissance 2.0 and the Missing Link from the Invisible World. You may have no interest in mind control experiments if those seem irrelevant in your life. He puts a lot into perspective.

Anyone interested in biological/technical methods of control, please go to revised Blog https://doubledstandards.blogspot.com and scroll to Invasive Technology. Many individuals & authors to follow up, in the time of June 2021.

Do you think vaccines could change someone's personality or behaviour? Might people exaggerate anything that seems unusual, blaming it on vaccination? See new Blog at https://characterflip.blogspot.com

THE INTRA-BODY NANO-NETWORK

https://brandnewtube.com/v/GT6QFu

Max Igan, TheCrowhouse

Nano-Sensor Modelling for Intra-Body Nano-Networks

Journal:

 

Wireless Personal Communications > Issue 4/2021

Author:

 

Mustafa Alper Akkaş

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11277-021-08171-2

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This Blog is by way of continuing some themes from a collective Blog of 10 years ago, which is still up at https://toukanalia.blogspot.com

See Kontextuall playlist on YouTube of 4 short videos on Cults, Groups, Influence, Coercion, which apply to groups but also to coercive or influential behaviour in couples.

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For some authors/researchers on End Times, Conspiracies, Breakaway Civilisations, see post at https://groupsandminds.blogspot.com/2019/03/blog-post_14.html - includes James & Lance Morcan, Eve Lorgen, Texe Marrs, Jim Keith, Mae Brussell, Adam Parfrey, Ivan Sanderson, Ingo Swann, John Keel, Nick Redfern, Mike Bara.

Do People Have Souls?

I believe so, although I am not particularly religious. I believe it is important that people are allowed and helped to make up their own minds, make their own mistakes even. There has been talk in counselling circles over whether people should be given advice. Giving advice is not a part of counselling and therapy, though some situations may differ, so long as it is used wisely. I find that, whatever a situation looks like, things can alter significantly. The best person to handle decisions is the person whose life it is. Something may look like a dead cert; often it is not.

The best healer can be someone who comes along in a person's life, and a relationship forms. Even if it breaks up, with luck it leaves the individual strong enough to make decisions for themselves that may also affect others. Obviously, these things can work out adversely for an individual, but it can also work miracles.

Cults, Controlling Relationships

When someone gets drawn into a relationship with an individual with a strong imbalance of power, or where a guru-type cult-leader, or a cultic group is involved, attempts are made to control increasing amounts and areas of individuals' lives. There are some excellent books and blogs about these issues. In essence, the leader sets him- or herself up as a kind of demigod - who has to be obeyed and never questioned. To my mind, that is where souls come into it. Somehow the leader gains power, and has increasingly to exert control. Some notorious and devastating cults seem to have begun with high ideals and quite ordinary behaviour.

Some business enterprises can become similar in effect. One of the main problems with a controlling spouse, or boss, or group leader, is that friends may see what is happening and sound an alarm, which falls on deaf ears. Their friend has got well and truly hooked, and cannot hear anything or anyone else. It can happen fast; alternatively the build-up is slow and insidious.

In closing this section, I'll just mention that some powerful cults began by portraying themselves as beneficial therapy groups. They worked, but very destructively. One cannot help but wonder if that is their real purpose, to get in under the radar to the Soul. You've heard the phrase about capturing Hearts & Minds. If the game-plan is to 'capture' Souls, leaving no route out for those selected, that could explain a thing or two. If some higher echelon in a cult or in wider society, reckons that sexual abuse of youngsters particularly, seriously hampers their development and wellbeing, does that explain even more? As to whether perpetrators (or some faction behind the scenes) actually gains power or strength through these activities, we do not know.

Another catchy phrase is Divide & Conquer, where factions are set up so as not to get-it-together, see the picture and cooperate, or go against each other, argue Yes, there's lots of abuse - believe survivors, or No, no proof - back under the carpet. The same thing has happened over ritual abuse. A convenient plan, for some? A plan nonetheless.

Watch yourself. Protect yourself.

Personal Responsibility

When people write about reincarnation or past lives, they may wax lyrical on the glamour of certain eras or quests, and that some groups of people tend to come together in groups. It can be very offputting to those who are excluded, or have no guidelines as to what life is about, what they're meant to be doing and so on. Why does any of it matter? Perhaps because people can get drawn into things that aren't what they really believe in, and would not otherwise have responsibility for. It can happen so easily, for one reason or another, or simply inexplicably. Unless we are careful. Sometimes people share living accommodation, which has an impact on things like boundaries and privacy, and I've seen people lose parts of their individuality or identity.

Some of the most down-to-earth writers on esoteric subjects, advise people to make up their own minds about what matters in their circumstances, and just  keep doing the best they can. 

Searching for Meaning

This is getting into an area I had no intention of starting on, and will leave readers to continue. I have listed writers on some esoteric subjects you may wish to follow up. If people have souls, then they may also have other lives in other times & places, other themes or tasks, other explanations. Believe or reject or leave for now.

When I became concerned over accounts of ritual abuse, I went to lectures, mixed around, got shed-loads of books, my usual efforts towards getting answers to questions. I sat at a talk where suddenly the lecturer said he thought some experiences of multiple personalities were likely to be when people got 'stuck in their archetypes', and we spoke afterwards. It is over my head and not my usual way of thinking. However I feel it worth considering. Also people can act as though they are influenced by characters on-screen or in books, and emulate people they come across. So what really is character or personality, today and many years down the line? I've known people who became very different. I changed a lot. Have you?

Just as we do different things at different times in the day, we will have different emphasis or purpose at different times of life, handling things as best we can. There are likely to be a few people who tend to help, or some who hinder. The stuff of myth and fairy tales perhaps.

For more on Souls, crime, groups, heredity, skip to
Full Circle: Wrapping Things Up https://notincharacter.blogspot.com/2019/01/blog-post_54.html


Also see some End Times authors at https://groupsandminds.blogspot.com/2019/03/blog-post_14.html - Souls & ETs

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Link to Cultures or Cults: Do They Hypnotise Us? https://notincharacter.blogspot.com/2019/01/blog-post_10.html

For some strategies when boundaries become a problem see On Protection  https://notincharacter.blogspot.com/2019/01/blog-post_28.html

Direct link to Cultwise Blog: https://cultwise.blogspot.com

 

On Protection

It is an individual matter, and can involve some trial and error: Make-it-up as You-go-Along. People are more likely to be psychic or sensitive if a parent was. Or protected, or whatever. But people can read up, listen to others, and think on. Whether people see UFOs or not can run in families. People I've known who were brought up on a farm seemed very intuitive. No-one should ever use their gifts to scare you, or to make money from you or take advantage of you. Bear in mind that they can also be Wrong!

You can make sure that you have good locks, that no-one can see right in your windows, that you are careful over the Internet & what you say. In my early employment days, I went for an interview where the owner said 'Be careful what you say, because there are people here who pry.' I recently broke contact with someone I'd known for years. She acted as though incompetent in her own life, while fixating on me and anyone I ever mentioned, forgetting nothing. She was stringing along professional helpers who liked and supported her, but reinforced her helplessness till it was too late: It seems more likely she was the 'professional player'. It felt I was being goaded for playground sport, as happens on social media with a vengeance. Bullying can be subtle or covert, sometimes a way of grooming.

The person feels they can behave as they wish, while implying no-one can do anything: They are useful to the workplace, or not well, elderly, vulnerable, can't handle a challenge or row. My guess is I am now being put-down to others as the new name-of-the-game. Why would I not gently say something? People need their defence mechanisms, but one doesn't have to collude with them, and in my view to do so is inappropriate. In a work setting you may have to grin & bear some things, but try to maintain boundaries. Teamwork and seamlessness are not my favourite words. In some jobs you are never expected to draw a line. Is that a con? Organisations that focus inwards are more likely to go to the wall. My contact who focussed on the minutiae of my life, made it harder for me to get on with more important issues. When this happens in workplaces, it's like fiddling while Rome burns. You can watch employees who actually seem to want the organisation to go to the wall, and you along with.

Hint: If you go for a job interview or similar, and they harp on about behaviour or inadequacies of your predecessor, or how quickly they were shown the door... be careful, though naturally different people fit into different slots. The same sort of thing applies when someone you think pretty decent, makes snide comments about other people, or their inadequacies, not just once but often.

Watch out for infringement of your boundaries. Sometimes others form a kind of 'unholy alliance' to undermine others. Quite why reasonably attractive people, in good health, capable, in employment, having apparently good relationships, living in nice homes, find it necessary in any way to target people who are less fortunate, is a mystery! I guess it harks back to playground days. Maybe it just follows what appears to be the line of least resistance - until that fights back, or simply ignores it.

If you juggle several aspects about something or someone, you will see the mosaic before others. If you feel uneasy, you can only do your best to fulfil a role. Find a way to withdraw if you need to. People can maintain a camouflage for a very long time. Sometimes an obsession develops and settles on you. Occasionally a perceptive other person sees it and backs you up, but usually it is down to you to pick up the pieces. The simplest way to describe some of this is 'living vicariously' through someone else, which is a natural part of life so long as it doesn't go too far over boundaries and become oppressive. Relationships take many forms, and we usually settle on getting along with some leeway. You may manage to renegotiate, or you may not.

If you are being stalked physically or emotionally, or something like it happens online, there are useful books on Amazon, and anti-stalking advice online. Stalking is an obsession. It can be dangerous, and you need to be careful. Don't engage.

If you are in a situation of domestic violence, get good advice. Also explore coercive control.

If you become the target of an emotional, underhanded onslaught from someone, take steps to protect yourself and your home the best ways you can. If you feel more comfortable with, say, rabbit or dinosaur ornaments on the shelf, try it. Some things seem to work without being part of an ideological framework. (Maybe that is why they do.) Get curtains you like, or some material to drape over. Work on your own environment, learning as you do. What I can tell you, is it will puzzle them when their antics don't work. I liken it to pulling down the shutters and closing up shop.

No more deals possible.

Invasive Technology

Anyone interested in biological/technical methods of control, please go to revised Blog https://doubledstandards.blogspot.com and scroll to Invasive Technology.

Most pages have a selection of relevant books that you may not have come across, including on coronavirus, End Times, mind control - what we're calling Mindcluk, cuckooing of the mind.

See also Mind Invasive Tech at https://invasivetech.blogspot.com where links to many researchers appear in the top panel.

December 2021

Blog on things to try to shield yourself & your environment from possible effects of 5G, EMF is now up at 

https://shieldingtips.blogspot.com

An important Footnote: A pretty young woman walked up to me at a meeting, and said she needed advice on controlling her mind. For some reason I asked if she meant herself, or someone else doing it to her. Quick as a flash, a 90-year old gentleman nearby said 'Someone has built a bridge towards you, and you need to find how to stop him.'

Is it something in my stars that I've been at the butt end of people's weirdness, and have collected snippets along the way? The psychic friend who did my chart gave more advice. I am not psychic, but had bought things at a sale and one made me uncomfortable. My friend, who one might think would never allow random items within a mile, said 'I shove things in a strong black binbag and tie the top.' Several books I ordered that gave off the same feeling, were relegated straight to the shed. So don't necessarily think you must be imagining things, or cannot do anything about them.

Did you ever prepare to get to an event or to meet someone, get halfway there or right to the door, and turn around? Or fall asleep and miss the train? Sometimes one hears about what happened there, and thanks those 'lucky stars'.

You may have reached this page in the hope of finding some strategy to help you through a dire personal situation. My best advice is to try to avoid getting drawn into relationships or activities that could turn problematic. I know things can happen very fast, but keep a weather eye open, ready to extract yourself. People tried to involve me in an occult group that advertised in a London newspaper. Other times I attended various introductory lectures, and held discussion groups. More than one person warned me about other activities that some members engaged in. So be careful. Not everything/everyone are as they seem, and you may be happy with some things but not others. Reading the work of authors who got more deeply involved and 'duped', they seem to take an avoidance path, cutting themselves off from those people, rather than confronting them. When running our own groups, the next couple of dates were given out, but no further into the future than that.

Protect Yourself

Measures & Countermeasures
http://toukanalia.50megs.com/createyours/measures.html

 


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Link to Cultures or Cults: Do They Hypnotise Us? https://notincharacter.blogspot.com/2019/01/blog-post_10.html 

For more on Souls, crime, groups, heredity, skip to
Full Circle: Wrapping Things Up  https://notincharacter.blogspot.com/2019/01/blog-post_54.html 

There are indications that emotional suffering such as from bullying, ostracism, shunning, rejection, or breakup of a love affair, can cause people to feel as they would with physical pain. The physiological indications are very similar. See the work of Professor Kipling Williams.

Shunning is used in cults to keep people in line. It causes a great deal of pain, splitting up families and isolating people. Scientology calls their version of showing disapproval and causing punishment 'Fair Game', words which have become common in describing vengeance. Is it a fair route to follow? Is it worth it?

Tabs at the top link to information on some subjects touched on in this Blog, and to Tim Field's bullying site Bully Online, which includes in the Workplace.

Also see the work of Joe Navarro on 'Dangerous Personalities'. 

For more resources & links on Memory & Bad Therapy visit Middlegroundable page https://middlegroundable.blogspot.com/2012/01/blog-post_9097.html

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Are We All a Bit Psychic?

I've always thought I am not, but recall instances in workaday life, walking into a room where people have been talking about me, and my knowing it. Or it is like someone cut the room down the middle with a knife. When we put our house up for sale and someone walked round in our absence, I could feel their antagonism. I certainly don't always get things right. In a practical sense, it can save you hassle. Sitting on a train with my thoughts all over the place, I became aware of a man opposite who kept pulling at his leather gloves, and it was like him boring a hole into my calf. I shot off the train at the next station and belted along the platform to another carriage. Admittedly it was at a time when women were being attacked on London trains.

Some people can lull me into feeling that they are fine to be with, which can turn out very wrong. At times I reacted badly to someone at work, then formed a friendship with them after leaving. I had a knack of knowing if someone was good at art or something, or walking into a bookshop and heading straight for something, hardly looking before buying. I had a psychic friend I called Mr. O. He said he was always a material person, very active till his fifties, when he realised he could heal people with his hands. He used to charge up tissues just passing them through his hands, and sent them to people. His first thought was always what someone else might need. He and some friends formed a group which met at a particular time weekly to send out healing. One day, for some reason like appalling weather, they could not meet, and the recipient group asked 'What happened? We could not feel anything.' He was very good with people's photos, picking up pets that had passed on, even if they were not in the picture at all.

I was fascinated by people with a psychic sense, and the idea that if, for instance one had an idea or a problem, someone might be able to sense it, or actually see it hanging around. There may be people with a certain physical or psychological make-up that enables others to pick up things that they've been brooding about, or they may be sensitive enough to suss things out about us. If we could see it ourselves, we'd understand what we were sensing - it might actually 'be there'. I went to a student meeting on a course I was embarking on, in a lovely basement room in someone's home. I tried not to be put off by her husband having a skull on one of the shelves, but what struck me more was the furniture giving off something that was not just a smell of polish. Fortunately we never went back there.


Below is a rather scary image of a book:

Thought Forms and Psychogons: (about studies and practices with psychogons) by Alfred Ballabene 

If you search around you can download a free .pdf version with drawings that make it more meaningful. Some of it is along the lines of the Leadbeater book on thoughtforms, emotions and so on. It could be that there are collections of energy either in someone's aura, or present nearby, or linked, that we actually are reacting to as if we could see them with ordinary sight. Another avenue to look at is things like entities or servitors, that are created with a specific task to perform. How do we know that some people don't just do this automatically to fulfil a need, without ever opening a magic book? It's my belief this happens more than we know.

Some families have strong traditions, and may have violent emotions. It sometimes seems these pass from generation to generation, with positive or negative consequences, having significant effects on those they come in contact with. It is not at a conscious level, and therefore may be more powerful, so the impact on others can be very much like a deliberate curse. OK, so you don't believe in them, but wait till you meet something otherwise inexplicable! Then start looking to some form of protection.


Next, I draw your attention to author Mark Stavish. He is an esoteric writer and has a YouTube channel, but is able to explain things in a way that ordinary folks can understand. He writes about egregores, or group-minds of various kinds What interested me is his little book on polgergeists and obsessions, with sections on other authors whose work I had turned to in an attempt to get an inkling. I also have a thing about protecting oneself, and he has another book on that.

There seem to be situations and people, where none of the usual ideas work to explain things, or to improve them for someone, or for oneself. I don't believe in messing about in things I do not understand, but unless we consider some things outside-the-box, we will never learn.


Bear with me while I digress some more: Some writers are into Earth energies and so on, and one would have to be pretty hard-nosed not to consider that these, plus Planetary energies or configurations could explain some of the otherwise inexplicable.

See What About Forensic Astrology? at https://notincharacter.blogspot.com/2019/01/blog-post_33.html


To get back to where this all started:

Are we effectively 'cuckooed' by other people's needs, conscious or not? Do they somehow infiltrate some of our own brain (or other) circuits, so that we don't really know what to think for a while? Is this how cults work? or coercive situations like scams, or fraudulent relationships? See recent tweet -

AYRWAVE TomorrowGetHelp: #domesticviolence #UK‏ @LouiseAyr

Is stalking a kind of scam, a cuckooing of one's life?
Do Cults work by cuckooing the mind, the soul?
Watch where you place your trust!

Update at Groups, Minds & Beliefs: Protection & Boundaries
groupsandminds.blogspot.com/2019/03/blog-p…

 

AYRWAVE TomorrowGetHelp: #domesticviolence #UK @LouiseAyr

Can a strong personality effectively 'cuckoo' a quieter one, who finds they can't express themselves, or think properly for a while?

Has it happened to you!

Do you ever wonder why you didn't speak up, or do something you might have expected to…? Cuckooing of a different kind?



AYRWAVE TomorrowGetHelp: #domesticviolence #UK‏ @LouiseAyr

Can a person or group hack or hijack part of our personality or behaviour? Would we know? Would we be accountable for our actions either way? Are behaviour or character consistent - on a good day, or a bad one! 

OOC outofcharacter blog sequel is at https://notincharacter.blogspot.com